How to Make Friends When You’re Socially Awkward (Or Just Lazy)
Let’s face it—making friends in college is harder than explaining your major to your grandparents. If small talk makes you sweat and the idea of "putting yourself out there" sounds exhausting, this guide is for you.
Here’s how to build a social circle without faking extroversion or leaving your comfort zone (too much).
Step 1: Stop Trying to Be "Interesting"
You don’t need to be the life of the party.
Most people just want someone who listens, laughs at their jokes, and doesn’t ghost them after one conversation.
Pro Tip: If you can’t think of what to say, just ask questions. People love talking about themselves.
Step 2: Leverage Low-Effort Socializing
Join a Club (Then Barely Participate)
Find a group that meets once a month (book clubs, movie clubs, "people who hate clubs" clubs).
Show up, nod along, and let others carry the conversation.
Befriend an Extrovert
Extroverts adopt introverts like stray cats.
Let them drag you to events—you just have to stand there and occasionally smile.
Use Class as a Crutch
"Hey, did you understand that assignment?" is the easiest opener ever.
Study groups = forced socialization with a purpose.
Step 3: Embrace the Power of the Internet
Discord servers, Reddit meetups, or even Bumble BFF let you vet people before meeting them.
Pro Move: Bond over mutual hatred of group projects.
Step 4: Be the Person Who Says "Yes" (Sometimes)
When someone invites you to something mildly tolerable, go.
Even if you leave early, you’ll still get credit for showing up.
Step 5: Accept That Friendships Take Time
Not every interaction will lead to a ride-or-die friendship.
Some people will flake. Some conversations will be awkward. That’s normal.
Final Tip: Don’t Overthink It
Most people are just as nervous as you are. The secret? Nobody’s paying as much attention to your awkwardness as you are.
