Networking 101: How to Talk to Professionals Without Feeling Like a Slightly Awkward Penguin
So, you’ve heard that "networking" is the magic key to internships, jobs, and maybe even free coffee chats with cool people. But the idea of walking up to a stranger and selling yourself sounds about as fun as a pop quiz on a Monday morning.
Don’t worry—networking doesn’t have to be scary, sleazy, or full of stiff small talk. Here’s how to connect with professionals without sweating through your nicest shirt.
Step 1: Realize Everyone is Just a Human (Yes, Even That CEO)
That intimidating LinkedIn influencer with 50K followers? They once spilled coffee on their pants before a big meeting too.
💡 Pro Tip: Instead of thinking, "I need something from this person," shift to "I’m curious about their journey." People love talking about themselves—use that.
Step 2: Start Small (No, You Don’t Have to Slide Into DMs Yet)
If walking up to strangers at a conference makes you want to hide in the bathroom, try these low-pressure moves first:
Comment on a LinkedIn post (something smarter than "Great post!").
Ask a professor to introduce you to an alum in your field.
Join a club or event where people expect to network (less awkward).
Step 3: The Art of the Non-Cringe Email/LinkedIn Message
Bad Message:
"Hi, I need a job. Hire me?"
Good Message:
"Hi [Name],
*I came across your work on [specific project/company] and loved how you [something genuine]. I’m a [your year] studying [major] and would love to learn more about how you got into [their field]. Would you have 15 minutes for a quick chat?*
Thanks, and no worries if you’re swamped!
[Your Name]"
🔑 Key: Be specific, flattering (but not creepy), and low-pressure.
Step 4: The Coffee Chat That Doesn’t Suck
If they say yes to meeting (yay!), keep it casual:
Prepare 3-5 questions (e.g., "What’s something you wish you knew at my stage?").
Bring a notebook (shows you care, but don’t scribble like a courtroom artist).
End with: "Who else in this field do you think I should talk to?" (Boom—more connections).
☕ Bonus: Offer to pick up the coffee—it’s $5 for goodwill points.
Step 5: Follow Up Without Being a Ghost (or a Stalker)
Right after: "Thanks so much for your time! The story about [thing they mentioned] was hilarious/helpful."
Later: If they gave advice, update them when you try it ("Took your suggestion and applied for X—just wanted to say thanks again!").
🚫 Never: Send a generic LinkedIn connection request with no message. That’s like handing someone a resume while silently maintaining eye contact.
Step 6: Networking Isn’t Just for Job Hunts
The best connections happen when you’re not desperate. Chat with people:
At club events
During internships (ask coworkers out to lunch)
Even on social media (Twitter/industry groups)
You’re not collecting business cards—you’re building real relationships.
Final Tip: Relax. Seriously.
Most professionals remember being nervous students too. The worst that happens? They don’t reply. The best? You gain a mentor, a job lead, or at least a funny story.
💬 Your Turn: What’s your most awkward networking moment? (Mine involves calling someone the wrong name for 20 minutes. Oops.) Drop it in the comments!
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